It’s officially two years since I started this website and began writing and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on where I am now compared to where I started. Not because everything-is-fixed kind of way. More in the honest sense of looking back and seeing how much of life has quietly shifted underneath […]
The 3 Stages of Trauma Healing Explained
There comes a point in CPTSD healing where you realize this has a shape to it. A beginning. A long, messy middle. And then, not an ending exactly, but a different way of living with yourself. And the longer you do this work, the more obvious it becomes that healing is not a straight line […]
CPTSD Shame Spiral: How It Really Feels
The Prosecution’s Case If you have CPTSD and you’re reading this, you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. That emotional black hole we fall into, the one that suddenly starts dragging up every bad thing we’ve ever done, every bad thing that’s ever been done to us, and every awkward interaction since 1997 and […]
I Thought I Was Further Along Than This
There’s this quiet expectation that after enough therapy, enough self-awareness, and enough “doing the work” that something clicks. Like one day you wake up and think, “Ah. There it is. I’m healed now.” Wouldn’t that be nice? The truth of the matter, however, is you can spend years healing and still have days, weeks, even, […]
The Burnout No One Talks About in Healing
The Expectation of Strength After “Doing the Work” There’s this quiet expectation that comes with healing. Once you’ve “done the work,” and you’ve survived the worst of it, when you can name your trauma and talk about it without completely falling apart… you’re supposed to be strong. Resilient. Grounded. And self-aware. The Pressure of Being […]
How Being Strong Is a CPTSD Survival Habit
The Hyper-Independent Heart: When “Being Strong” is a Trauma Response Growing up, I was always the strong one. The capable one. And the one who figures it out. For some people, those sentences are a badge they wear with pride. For others, especially those living with CPTSD, they’re quiet confessions. If the adults around you […]
