There’s a weird thing that happens when you’re a male survivor of childhood abuse and you grow up. You live your life without announcing what happened to you as a kid. There’s no guidebook to follow. You just sort of wake up one day as an adult who’s technically functional. On paper, you’re paying the […]
Should I Forgive My Abuser?
A question most survivors eventually ask That’s a really important question. I actually think it’s one almost every survivor of abuse ends up sitting with at some point. And the truth is, there is no right or wrong answer here. What’s right for one person might feel completely wrong for another. Because as we all […]
The Shift: From Survival Mode to Calm
I figured I’d share a few things I’ve been noticing about myself lately. This is a bit of a follow-on from my last post (you can read it here if you want: From Survival To Self: Becoming Who I Am) Perhaps you can relate and maybe it helps to remember that we’re all just trying to […]
The Invisible Burden of Trauma
Unfortunately, people still underestimate what childhood trauma can do to a person. Most don’t get it because they’ve never had to live through it. Trauma changes your brain. It changes how you move through the world, how safe you feel, and how you trust, react, connect, and survive. The problem is trauma usually doesn’t leave […]
The Role Music Played in My CPTSD Recovery
I’ve been asked a lot what actually helped me the most in my healing journey and what made the biggest difference in getting me to where I am now. My answer? Music. And I don’t mean in the cheesy “music heals” Pinterest quote kind of way. I mean genuinely. And deeply. In a way that […]
2 Years of Writing Through CPTSD & Healing
It’s officially two years since I started this website and began writing and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on where I am now compared to where I started. Not because everything-is-fixed kind of way. More in the honest sense of looking back and seeing how much of life has quietly shifted underneath […]
