I’ve noticed something about living with CPTSD that I never expected. When something good happens, or we accomplish something we’re proud of, it isn’t always followed by a celebration. Instead, it can be followed by an emotional crash. It’s as though doing something positive comes with the expectation that the emotional bill is about to […]
What My Daughter Taught Me About Healing
I used to think healing would look different. I imagined some major moment where everything suddenly clicked into place. Waking up one morning and realizing I was no longer carrying the weight of the past, overthinking every conversation, no longer replaying old memories, or longer waiting for something bad to happen. That isn’t really how […]
I Didn’t Set Out to Write a Memoir
Apparently I Wrote a Book Well… this is weird. After years of writing about Complex PTSD, trauma, healing, emotional chaos, and the occasional story about getting lost in New York despite living here for decades, I’ve somehow become a published author. I genuinely didn’t see that coming. If you’re new here, this is where I […]
What CPTSD Actually Feels Like for Men
There’s a weird thing that happens when you’re a male survivor of childhood abuse and you grow up. You live your life without announcing what happened to you as a kid. There’s no guidebook to follow. You just sort of wake up one day as an adult who’s technically functional. On paper, you’re paying the […]
Should I Forgive My Abuser?
A question most survivors eventually ask That’s a really important question. I actually think it’s one almost every survivor of abuse ends up sitting with at some point. And the truth is, there is no right or wrong answer here. What’s right for one person might feel completely wrong for another. Because as we all […]
The Shift: From Survival Mode to Calm
I figured I’d share a few things I’ve been noticing about myself lately. This is a bit of a follow-on from my last post (you can read it here if you want: From Survival To Self: Becoming Who I Am) Perhaps you can relate and maybe it helps to remember that we’re all just trying to […]
