There’s a weird thing that happens when you’re a male survivor of childhood abuse and you grow up. You live your life without announcing what happened to you as a kid. There’s no guidebook to follow. You just sort of wake up one day as an adult who’s technically functional. On paper, you’re paying the […]
Should I Forgive My Abuser?
A question most survivors eventually ask That’s a really important question. I actually think it’s one almost every survivor of abuse ends up sitting with at some point. And the truth is, there is no right or wrong answer here. What’s right for one person might feel completely wrong for another. Because as we all […]
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When Headlines Trigger Trauma
Not a Political Statement I wasn’t going to write anything about this, because I never want my website or my podcast to become political. That’s never been the point. Trauma and CPTSD don’t belong to one party or ideology. They don’t check voter registration. They show up in bodies, in relationships, and in quiet moments […]
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Healing the Distance Between Me and My Mom
The Part of My Childhood That Still Hits the Hardest I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the relationship I had with my parents while I was growing up. And the part that’s always been the one that hits me the hardest is the one with my mom. Not because she did anything wrong, far […]
Why I Wish I Spoke Up as a Child
The Thing I Wish My Younger Self Knew Last night I caught myself thinking, what’s the one thing I’d tell my younger self if I had the chance? The answer came to me quick, sharp, and almost painful. Speak up. That’s it. That’s the answer. If you want to read more of what I’d tell […]
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Why CPTSD Makes Failure Feel Safer
Setting Myself Up To Fail When I first started therapy and learned about my CPTSD, I did one thing over and over: I set myself up to fail. My brain was on a mission to prove its own negativity right. Weirdly, failure felt safer; if it was coming anyway, at least I was in control. […]