There’s a weird thing that happens when you’re a male survivor of childhood abuse and you grow up. You live your life without announcing what happened to you as a kid. There’s no guidebook to follow. You just sort of wake up one day as an adult who’s technically functional. On paper, you’re paying the […]
The Shift: From Survival Mode to Calm
I figured I’d share a few things I’ve been noticing about myself lately. This is a bit of a follow-on from my last post (you can read it here if you want: From Survival To Self: Becoming Who I Am) Perhaps you can relate and maybe it helps to remember that we’re all just trying to […]
The Invisible Burden of Trauma
Unfortunately, people still underestimate what childhood trauma can do to a person. Most don’t get it because they’ve never had to live through it. Trauma changes your brain. It changes how you move through the world, how safe you feel, and how you trust, react, connect, and survive. The problem is trauma usually doesn’t leave […]
I Thought I Was Further Along Than This
There’s this quiet expectation that after enough therapy, enough self-awareness, and enough “doing the work” that something clicks. Like one day you wake up and think, “Ah. There it is. I’m healed now.” Wouldn’t that be nice? The truth of the matter, however, is you can spend years healing and still have days, weeks, even, […]
The Burnout No One Talks About in Healing
The Expectation of Strength After “Doing the Work” There’s this quiet expectation that comes with healing. Once you’ve “done the work,” and you’ve survived the worst of it, when you can name your trauma and talk about it without completely falling apart… you’re supposed to be strong. Resilient. Grounded. And self-aware. The Pressure of Being […]
CPTSD Healing: Why ‘Cured’ Isn’t the Goal
Can CPTSD Be Cured? There’s a common question I get when talking about living with CPTSD: can you be cured? First, I always want to be clear about something in my replies. I’m not a therapist, and I don’t have any clinical training. I make sure people know that when they reach out. What I […]
