Sometimes the hardest person to forgive after childhood trauma isn’t the person who hurt you. It’s yourself. That sounds strange when you were a child and someone else was responsible for what happened to you. You might reasonably think there should be nothing to forgive. And yet, here we are. You might look back at […]
CPTSD: Every Healing Journey Is Different
Vulnerability Doesn’t End When You Hit Publish One of the things I didn’t expect when I started writing about CPTSD was that hitting “publish” would bring a whole new kind of vulnerability. Writing my story was difficult, but sharing it with the world was something else entirely. Suddenly, the words I had carried privately for […]
Should I Forgive My Abuser?
A question most survivors eventually ask That’s a really important question. I actually think it’s one almost every survivor of abuse ends up sitting with at some point. And the truth is, there is no right or wrong answer here. What’s right for one person might feel completely wrong for another. Because as we all […]
The Shift: From Survival Mode to Calm
I figured I’d share a few things I’ve been noticing about myself lately. This is a bit of a follow-on from my last post (you can read it here if you want: From Survival To Self: Becoming Who I Am) Perhaps you can relate and maybe it helps to remember that we’re all just trying to […]
CPTSD Recovery Moving Beyond Survival Mode
The Pull I Couldn’t Explain. I used to think healing from CPTSD was about finding answers in books. It turns out sometimes it’s about buying a plane ticket to Dublin because your body refuses to be ignored any longer. I’m finally moving out of the ‘in-between’ space, that strange, uncomfortable gap between who I had […]
The 3 Stages of Trauma Healing Explained
There comes a point in CPTSD healing where you realize this has a shape to it. A beginning. A long, messy middle. And then, not an ending exactly, but a different way of living with yourself. And the longer you do this work, the more obvious it becomes that healing is not a straight line […]