Discover how attachment styles shape relationships after trauma. Learn to identify patterns and start healthier connections on your healing journey.
Why Intensity Can Feel Like Connection For many people who grew up with childhood trauma, love can feel confusing. Not because we don’t know how to love. Many trauma survivors actually love deeply. We tend to notice the smallest changes in someone’s mood, remember the details other people miss, and become incredibly aware of the […]
The Hyper-Independent Heart: When “Being Strong” is a Trauma Response Growing up, I was always the strong one. The capable one. And the one who figures it out. For some people, those sentences are a badge they wear with pride. For others, especially those living with CPTSD, they’re quiet confessions. If the adults around you […]
7 Key Symptoms of CPTSD (Complex PTSD Signs You Should Know) I recently wrote about the difference between CPTSD and PTSD, how CPTSD often includes the symptoms of PTSD plus additional layers tied to long-term, repeated trauma. It’s not just the flashbacks and fear. It’s the ripple effects that bleed into your sense of self, […]
Ever feel like you have spent a life time pushing away the person who loves you the most? Yes. Me too. That’s what this week’s Healing Out Loud podcast episode is all about: those invisible walls we build when we have CPTSD. The ones that say, “I love you, but please stay right over there […]
(a.k.a., why “being left” hits like a freight train when you’ve got trauma on board) Let’s get this out of the way upfront: The Departure Theory isn’t something you’ll find in a psychology textbook. No citations, no DSM entry. But in trauma circles, especially among those of us navigating life with CPTSD, it comes up […]
(aka: Is This a Red Flag, or Am I Just Spiraling?) When CPTSD turns relationships into a weather system, dysregulation is exactly when your internal forecast suddenly calls for a hurricane… all because of a missed text. Meanwhile, everyone else is just seeing a light drizzle, and you’re busy grabbing sandbags. Suddenly, you’re frozen, flooded, […]
