Live with trauma long enough and you notice something. People often hand you religion like a first-aid kit. Personally, I’m open to hard conversations and uncomfortable debates. Yet, being told to “have faith” or “pray about it” can feel like a slap in the face. The same goes for hearing “God has a plan” or […]
CPTSD Shame Spiral: How It Really Feels
The Prosecution’s Case If you have CPTSD and you’re reading this, you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. That emotional black hole we fall into, the one that suddenly starts dragging up every bad thing we’ve ever done, every bad thing that’s ever been done to us, and every awkward interaction since 1997 and […]
Why Healing CPTSD Makes You Feel Younger
When Healing Feels Like “Acting Younger” There’s a subtle shift that happens when you start healing from CPTSD. At first, it’s quiet. You notice you’re a little less tense in situations that used to put you on edge. Your body stops its constant scan for what might go wrong. You realize you don’t have to […]
The Dark Side of “Inner Child” Work
When Healing Turns Trendy: The Complicated Reality of Inner Child Work With everything being marketed today, trauma, and all its little tid-bits, has become a playground for self-help gurus. Everywhere you look, attachment theory is being thrown around in relationships like a catchy meme, distilled down to little personality labels or quick-fix advice. I touched […]
When Healing Hits Hard: CPTSD Truths
The Whiplash of Healing (And Why It Still Catches Me Off Guard) If you’ve read my blog for more than five minutes, you already know I’ve been on this healing ride for a long while. Long enough to have collected a whole scrapbook of “Oh wow, I finally get it” moments… and an equally thick […]
Hypervigilance and CPTSD: Why I Face the Door
There is something that I do, and have done for as long as I can remember, and that is, I don’t sit with my back to the room. Ever. It’s not about being dramatic or antisocial. It’s because somewhere deep in my bones, my nervous system never really got the memo that the emergency ended. […]
