Let’s just get this out of the way: being a man who was sexually abused as a child messes with your head in ways that are hard to explain, and harder to talk about. I’m no therapist. Or self-help guru. I’m just someone who’s lived it. And if you have, you know that this kind […]
CPTSD vs Depression and Anxiety
It’s important to know that while CPTSD often comes with symptoms like depression and anxiety, it’s not exactly the same thing. A lot of people with CPTSD end up getting misdiagnosed with things like major depression, generalized anxiety, or even borderline personality disorder. That happens because CPTSD can look a lot like those conditions on […]
Where Does the CPTSD End, and Where Do I Begin?
I came across a question today that got me thinking: “Where does the CPTSD end, and where do I begin?” At first, I gave the kind of answer that felt honest enough. I tried to untangle trauma from truth, to draw a clean line between what’s mine and what got wired into me through fear, […]
How IFS Therapy Helped Me Heal from CPTSD
For those of us who’ve been diagnosed with CPTSD, real healing often begins the moment we stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” And start asking, “What happened to me, and how did I adapt to survive it?” That shift is everything. It changes the whole lens through which we see ourselves. However, knowing the right […]
Stop Misusing Attachment Theory in Relationships
I have a bone to pick with how we’re misusing one of the most powerful tools for emotional healing and turning it into feel-good slideshows and “this-is-why-you’re-toxic” infographics. Attachment theory is one of the most powerful frameworks I’ve found for understanding how we connect, disconnect, and survive emotionally. It’s helped me unpack decades of complex […]
Why Trauma-Informed Therapy Matters for Healing
When I first started therapy to deal with my CPTSD and the trauma from years of childhood sexual abuse, I honestly thought I was ready to heal. I’d done the research, found the courage, and showed up. What I wasn’t prepared for was how often I’d end up feeling like the problem, misunderstood, rushed, or […]
