I’m just going to come right out and say it: TikTok (and yes, Instagram too) has its place. But it’s become a breeding ground for a lot of nonsense, where people are taking mental health advice from Sheila, the New Age guru who pilated her way into the Akashic Records. If I see one more […]
Things I’ve Said In Therapy Sessions
– Because I have an opinionated inner child, apparently. I think we can all agree therapy can be a sacred space for healing, growth, and finally clearing out some of that mental clutter. But also? It’s a place where I’ve casually dropped lifelong trauma in the same tone you’d use to order a bagel. I’ve […]
Healing from Abuse: Why I Kept My Name
Let me start by saying something that might sound strange, I was named after the man who sexually abused me as a kid. And honestly? I never hated the name. That’s a hell of a sentence I never thought I’d be sharing at this point in my life, but here I am. That part always […]
When CPTSD and Discernment Become Tangled
For most of my life, I didn’t trust myself. Honestly, not really. I could read a room in seconds, crack a joke under pressure, or keep things calm while everything burned down behind my eyes, but ask me what I needed. Or whether someone’s behavior felt safe? I had no idea. I’d either panic and […]
The Departure Theory and CPTSD
(a.k.a., why “being left” hits like a freight train when you’ve got trauma on board) Let’s get this out of the way upfront: The Departure Theory isn’t something you’ll find in a psychology textbook. No citations, no DSM entry. But in trauma circles, especially among those of us navigating life with CPTSD, it comes up […]
Things I Thought Were Normal Until Therapy
I used to think I was just a guy with “quirks.” You know, overly cautious, emotionally avoidant, allergic to rest, suspicious of compliments, and constantly rehearsing conversations in my head like I was preparing for a deposition instead of a lunch date. Totally normal stuff… right? Turns out, no. Not really. Therapy has this sneaky […]