Explore personal growth on the journey of CPTSD recovery. Tools, stories, and insights to help you evolve, heal, and thrive.
Having cPTSD often makes you look at life through a black-and-white lens, and that your trauma response to life is not just constantly assessing whether or not people are safe but also whether our environments are safe too. For a really long time, my thinking was on a black-and-white level. You either liked/loved me or […]
For far too long, I have felt that I wasn’t good enough. I would seek validation from others. I saw the relationship I had with another as a grading point for my worthiness, and when those relationships ended, the reinforcement I received was the same every time. That I wasn’t worthy, and that’s why I […]
Being our authentic selves takes a lot of work. To understand what is truly going on in our mind and body. It’s not conditional, but instead going all in on self-acceptance. This requires making the effort to compassionately tolerate our flaws as well as celebrating our strengths. I have already written about letting go of […]
Any young boy looks for a hero. Someone they can rely on. A father figure. Someone to inspire them. To look up to. I grew up not having that. I remember being a kid in school and having to do a presentation on who in your life was your hero, and when the day came […]
Things we do to protect ourselves make it harder for other people to get close. Something that I am pro at. Putting up walls and downplaying anything I felt. But it turns out, as I am slowly going through a personal transition, that I am a lot more sensitive than I realized. And perhaps deep […]
I have reached a point in my healing where I am letting go of my old self. The person who has been with me throughout my many survival years. It’s a process that’s terrifying and a road of uncertainty. After all, who exactly am I if not the person I have always been? I’ve been […]
