Since I started this journey of being open about my trauma and sharing it, I’ve met some wonderful people, people who’ve taught me things and welcomed me into this messy, beautiful community of those of us trying to heal. One thing I have noticed, however, is that some people out there are healing louder than […]
The Dark Side of New Age Healing Trends
I’m just going to come right out and say it: TikTok (and yes, Instagram too) has its place. But it’s become a breeding ground for a lot of nonsense, where people are taking mental health advice from Sheila, the New Age guru who pilated her way into the Akashic Records. If I see one more […]
Things I’ve Said In Therapy Sessions
– Because I have an opinionated inner child, apparently. I think we can all agree therapy can be a sacred space for healing, growth, and finally clearing out some of that mental clutter. But also? It’s a place where I’ve casually dropped lifelong trauma in the same tone you’d use to order a bagel. I’ve […]
Healing from Abuse: Why I Kept My Name
Let me start by saying something that might sound strange, I was named after the man who sexually abused me as a kid. And honestly? I never hated the name. That’s a hell of a sentence I never thought I’d be sharing at this point in my life, but here I am. That part always […]
The Departure Theory and CPTSD
(a.k.a., why “being left” hits like a freight train when you’ve got trauma on board) Let’s get this out of the way upfront: The Departure Theory isn’t something you’ll find in a psychology textbook. No citations, no DSM entry. But in trauma circles, especially among those of us navigating life with CPTSD, it comes up […]
Things I Thought Were Normal Until Therapy
I used to think I was just a guy with “quirks.” You know, overly cautious, emotionally avoidant, allergic to rest, suspicious of compliments, and constantly rehearsing conversations in my head like I was preparing for a deposition instead of a lunch date. Totally normal stuff… right? Turns out, no. Not really. Therapy has this sneaky […]