Since I started this journey of being open about my trauma and sharing it, I’ve met some wonderful people, people who’ve taught me things and welcomed me into this messy, beautiful community of those of us trying to heal. One thing I have noticed, however, is that some people out there are healing louder than […]
Do We Have To Forgive To Heal From Trauma?
It’s important that this gets said: If you’re healing from CPTSD and you’re not ready to forgive the people who hurt you? There is nothing wrong with that. You’re just being honest with yourself. And it’s actually a brave thing to be. Forgiveness is one of those overused words people throw around when they don’t […]
The Dark Side of New Age Healing Trends
I’m just going to come right out and say it: TikTok (and yes, Instagram too) has its place. But it’s become a breeding ground for a lot of nonsense, where people are taking mental health advice from Sheila, the New Age guru who pilated her way into the Akashic Records. If I see one more […]
Tips On What to Do When CPTSD Hits Hard
You’d think that after all this time, I’d be a seasoned pro at navigating CPTSD. That it’d be a cakewalk by now. But it’s not. Even those of us who’ve done the therapy, the shadow work, put in the time, and learned the tools that do work for us still have off days. Still get […]
Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse for Men
Let’s just get this out of the way: being a man who was sexually abused as a child can mess with your head in ways that are incredibly difficult to explain, and even harder to talk about. I’m not a therapist. I’m not a self-help guru. I’m just someone who has lived it. And if […]
The Shame That Shouldn’t Be Mine: Surviving Abuse with CPTSD
There’s a kind of shame that wraps itself around trauma survivors like smoke after a fire. Invisible and suffocating. If you’ve lived through abuse and now live with CPTSD, you know exactly what I mean. It’s not the shame of doing something wrong. It’s the shame of having survived something that never should have happened […]