Having cPTSD often makes you look at life through a black-and-white lens, and that your trauma response to life is not just constantly assessing whether or not people are safe but also whether our environments are safe too. For a really long time, my thinking was on a black-and-white level. You either liked/loved me or […]
For far too long, I have felt that I wasn’t good enough. I would seek validation from others. I saw the relationship I had with another as a grading point for my worthiness, and when those relationships ended, the reinforcement I received was the same every time. That I wasn’t worthy, and that’s why I […]
Being our authentic selves takes a lot of work. To understand what is truly going on in our mind and body. It’s not conditional, but instead going all in on self-acceptance. This requires making the effort to compassionately tolerate our flaws as well as celebrating our strengths. I have already written about letting go of […]
Any young boy looks for a hero. Someone they can rely on. A father figure. Someone to inspire them. To look up to. I grew up not having that. I remember being a kid in school and having to do a presentation on who in your life was your hero, and when the day came […]
This quote hits home every time I read it. Far too often we get so used to the struggle that we forget. Or for some of us, we are only starting to learn what it means to be happy and experience joy because our trauma happened at such a young age that it is all […]
Things we do to protect ourselves make it harder for other people to get close. Something that I am pro at. Putting up walls and downplaying anything I felt. But it turns out, as I am slowly going through a personal transition, that I am a lot more sensitive than I realized. And perhaps deep […]
