Looking for the Pain Point: A Marketer’s Approach to Healing As someone who’s spent most of his life working in advertising and marketing, I’ve been trained to look for the “pain point.” What’s the thing underneath the thing? What’s actually driving the behavior, the resistance, the mess? CPTSD Healing Comes With Endless Pain Points And […]
Trauma Recovery and Feelings of Change
The Strange Tug of Letting Go There are a lot of big feelings swirling around right now. Even the slightest push and pull, that weird tug-of-war between letting go of old things and making space for whatever’s coming next. It’s that in-between place where you’re halfway out of one chapter and not quite settled in […]
The Nervous System Is Not the Enemy
For most of my life, I thought my body was betraying me. The racing heart. The shaking hands. The hollow, floating feeling that showed up at the worst possible moments, like I was a ghost watching myself try to function. I’d tell myself, “Calm down. You’re fine.” But my body clearly hadn’t gotten the memo. […]
CPTSD and the Loneliness You Don’t Expect
Learning to Be Alone (and Actually Liking It) As I get older, I’ve noticed something I didn’t expect. It’s not that I want or need people around me all the time. I’ve learned to enjoy my own company; I actually find a kind of calm in that. The fact I am introverted plays a large […]
Healing Isn’t About Everyone Accepting You
When Growth Isn’t Enough for Others I was asked something recently that made me reflect a little: how do you reconcile with people who still won’t accept you, even after all the work you’ve done to heal and change? The simple answer is, you can’t. And that’s one of the hardest truths about growth. You […]
Why You Shouldn’t Apologize for Being Human
The Silence That Follows Trauma One thing I learned early in my own healing is that talking openly about it has the ability to suck the life out of the room. You mention your trauma, and suddenly everything goes quiet, like someone hit the emotional “mute” button. Then, when you try to lighten the mood […]
